Along Came Tally: My Imaginary Friend and Bad Roommate

Yes I’m 46 and yes I have an imaginary friend! I’m going to name her, Tally. I imagine most of you do too you just don’t even realize it! Yesterday she was telling me to just hide out and stay home. She wanted me all to herself. She’s a brat, and frankly not very nice. She is always picking on me and saying I have no business living this creative and exceptional life I have. She said ” Vikki, you are so far behind why even start? Might as well give up now!”

One thing I have learned in my self-improvement journey is to let go of the people that hurt me. So I’ve always tried evicting her. But somehow she finds a way back in! ARRRGH

I was speaking with a friend and she gave me a new perspective on this roommate. She recommended that instead of evicting her, why don’t I love her? Why don’t I give her a different job? So this reminded me the idea that Hurt people Hurt people. And that quite possibly my friend Tally is just a hurt and scared part of me.

I have decided to give Tally a job that she can feel good about and give her the opportunity to be healed. She’s knows how to clear a room, so I will let her clean up the clutter. That should keep her busy. When I get things done, I always feel better.

Now, earlier I said you probably have an imaginary friend, too. And don’t worry you aren’t crazy, you are just human. Doubt and fear and our life experiences bring out these self-limiting beliefs. My roommate usually shows up right during the climb of reaching goals.

Today I will remind Tally, that everything is well. Life is not meant to be fearful and maybe through my example she will learn that she’s alright! I highly recommend you embrace your Imaginary friend, even name her and redirect her and help her heal!

Published by Awkward & Awesome

I am a still learning woman with a mission to help other women learn how to take care of themselves first. I have been through monumental changes in my life to become who I am today. Even as a youngster I felt as though I just didn't fit in. I suffered from loneliness, low self-esteem, and untreated depression. Eventually, I found the elixir to my overthinking and used alcohol and drugs to help me cope with the feelings. In 2010 I surrendered to the fact that I had an addiction problem and got help through a 12-step program. Since then, I have found peace and contentment, the ability to create a new life for myself and the people around me. A life that is beautiful and messy and full. One where I finally know my self worth and on a spiritual journey that is growing every day!

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